Nikki Tollenaar · Ancestral Memory Therapy · Hamilton

About Nikki

Their own words

I enjoy working with creative, neurodivergent, queer, and gender-diverse folks who are navigating identity, relationships, and the pressures of living outside of normative expectations and lifestyles. Many of the people I support are self-reflective and growth-oriented, yet still find themselves feeling stuck or repeating familiar patterns. I’m especially drawn to working with those who long for deep connection but sometimes find themselves slipping into caretaking roles or relying on humor, distraction, intellectualization, and other well-earned strategies for navigating discomfort and staying safe. Often, these patterns reflect adaptations to attachment wounds and formative relational experiences such as parentification, emotional neglect, or chronic shame. Our work often centers on creating more space for authenticity, connection, and belonging - in relationships, community, and within the wider webs of care that sustain us. I come to this work shaped by nearly a decade of frontline community mental health and social service experience, including crisis intervention, harm reduction, and community health.This background has grounded me in a trauma-informed, intersectional, and relational approach, and in a deep respect for the ways people adapt in order to survive difficult environments and experience. I’m also someone who lives within the neurodivergent experience myself, which informs both my clinical curiosity and my appreciation for the complexity, intensity, and creativity of our inner worlds. Therapy with me is collaborative, relational, and grounded in curiosity. I offer a space to understand patterns, protectors, and survival strategies with more clarity and compassion. My work draws from somatic therapy, attachment theory, parts work, and mindfulness, and may include exploring how experiences show up in the body, how different parts of self relate to one another, and how long-standing patterns can begin to shift. I aim to offer a space where humor, grief, stuckness, and insight can all exist at once, and where new possibilities for relating to yourself, others, and the world can emerge.

Services & prices

4 options across 4 treatments

Letter

“Legal, Progress notes, insurance forms, and/or advocacy letters $170 is the base cost for simple forms and letters. Documentation longer than 3 pages may be charge up to $320”

$17050 min

Psychotherapy .

“psychotherapy”

$17050 min

Student Psychotherapy

“This service is for college and university students 18 years and over. Individual must be a current student.”

$13050 min

Free consultNew patient

“A free phone therapy consultation is a gentle first step toward getting the support you need. It’s a chance for us to connect, for you to share a little about what’s been on your mind, and for me to explain how I might be able to help. It’s completely free and no-pressure—just a friendly conversation to see if we’re a good fit for working together. My goal is to make you feel heard, comfortable, and confident about your next steps in your journey toward healing and growth. Sometimes it’s difficult to think of what questions to ask a therapist in a free phone consultation, especially if you’re feeling nervous or unsure about what to expect. It’s completely okay to not know where to start—this is a new experience for many people. Here are some suggestions: What should I expect during a typical session? What is your experience working with issues like mine? How do you address misunderstandings? How do you address intersectionality in your practice? What steps do you take to ensure your practice is inclusive and affirming? How do you tailor therapy to meet individual needs? What do you think is most important for building a good therapist-client relationship? What would progress look like in therapy and how would we measure it? What is your availability? Do you offer virtual or in-person sessions?”

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